Having a troubled relationship can be one of the most stressful things in a persons life. The decision to end it or try and fix things can be horrendous to a persons outcome in life. How do people choose? How do people cope with the results and regret for the rest of their lives? Making up can be a solution to these questions, although you do not have to completely get back together with someone, being able to be friends again or at the very least being in good contact can help reduce ones stress levels and improve their quality of life thereafter.

Regardless of your situation before the relationship went sour or you broke up, there are some proven methods to solving this problem and making your life happier and regret less. However keep some things in mind first as you go about your business.

1. Do not get desperate, live your life free of stress and pain before you seek a solution in the person who caused so much pain in your life. If you are depressed and cannot get yourself back up, running back to the person you wish to make things right with can make yourself look pathetic, ruin your relationship for good, and make yourself feel even worse. The proper way to go about it is to get your life in order first.

2. In order to get your life together you have to first find peace. Peace with who you are, who you want to be, and your limitations in life. We all won’t be rock stars and famous celebrities, honestly that is OKAY. Once you accept that, you can be happier with what you have. Set a goal for yourself, think of ways to improve who you are and the current life you live. Or else you are living for nothing, not changing from day to day.

3. Give yourself time one day to thing of the possibility that it may not work out and things will either be the same as they are now, or potentially even worse. Once you think of that situation long enough and have come to grips with the possibility, only then are you ready to seek a resolution to the conflict. It is easier to do this step once you have already done steps 1 and 2 as you may not even want to resolve the issue anymore!

4. Be prepared, the boy scout motto. Don’t run over at a whim and think like some fairy tale movie everything will be fixed. Set a time and place and think about what you want to say and how you will say it. Maybe bring a gift, go someplace slightly public but not too private to creep them out. Be cautious and never accusatory.

5. Make sure that YOU yourself are ready. Are you trying to get back together with someone who made your life miserable but you can’t live without them? Maybe its better to wait and find someone else to distract you before you rashly run back into the other persons arms.